Congratulations if you got the A-Level results you wanted! Hugs if you didn’t, but remember it’s not the end of the world by any means.

I was going to write a freshers’ guide, but fellow blogger Corrie wrote a piece that says it all better than I would have. So, instead, I’m writing a list of things I didn’t expect when I arrived at Imperial! (Some are silly, some are serious; the most serious seem to have accumulated at the bottom, like some kind of opposite brazil nut effect. Only with my blog. Which is sometimes a bit nuts, I will grant you.)

1. There are more girls than I expected

In my year the ratio of male:female students is 2:1 – the largest proportion of female students ever! The college as a whole is also 2:1, with subjects like medicine and biology balancing out engineering and computing. Medics had to be good for something, amirite? ;)

(Disclaimer: Also, I didn’t realise there would be any rivalry between medics and the rest of college. There is. Also also, I’m joking, please don’t send me hate mail.)

2. There are more posh people than I expected

According to a quick Google search, over 40% of Imperial students went to an independent school. This isn’t a bad thing at all (I like to think the irritating people would have been irritating regardless of their background), but it was a surprise to me.

3. You will, at some point, be sucked into to the apathy field

For me, it was when I realised I was a week away from the summer holidays and I still hadn’t joined the gym, amongst other things. In addition, when trying to get people to join into Amnesty campaigns, plus going to the student conference and hearing about what other universities had been able to do!

4. You won’t spend your evenings having tea and crumpets with the Queen and your weekends playing croquet

Okay, I made that up. But I did expect to do more sight-seeing than I have. I may have to make a things Courtney must see before postponing reality further with a PhD in another city unless she decides to stay in London in which case yay more time for tea and crumpets with the Queen list.

6. You can be as geeky as you wish

Seriously, we have the entire spectrum of geek here. It. Is. Awesome.

7. You will clap at the end of every single lecture

My year did anyway. We’re that cool. Plus we refer to lecturers by their surnames, which makes the way my friends at other universities call their lecturers by their first names peculiarly jarring.

8. Three words: Science Museum Library

Excuse me a minute while I stroke the long-since out-of-print biography of Arthur Eddington I found within its hallowed shelves.

9. Not everyone is a genius and you don’t need to feel insecure if you’re not the best (and that includes you, yes you, little fresher)

Before coming here I read a story about a girl who got 10 As and was rejected from Oxford, (I say and, not but, because 10 A-Levels doesn’t automatically mean Oxbridge material) who was due to be in my year. This made me feel bad.  I also felt bad when I realised that I’m not Peter Hatfield, Sarah Flannery or any of the other thousands of young scientists who are objectively better than me. Now I’m trying to get over this sort of thing, and you should too.

Remember that most people here will have been the top students at their school and when all the top people are put together the top of the top is even… toppier. There will always be someone better than you, but don’t let that get you down. Not everyone can be the best – and not everyone should try and be the best. You’re probably better than you think you are. Yes, even you. Start believing it. It will save you the trouble of a mental breakdown later on.

10. You will get over not getting into Oxbridge

Someone once told me there are three types of students here: the ones who didn’t get into Oxford, the ones who didn’t get into Cambridge and the others who actually had Imperial as a first choice. I can’t tell you how much I wanted to go to Oxford. I started thinking about it when I was still doing GCSEs. When I went for interview and completely blew it I just kind of accepted that the dream world I’d created was exactly that. The fuss some people created over my rejection irritated me when I knew I wasn’t good enough and no one would believe me.

For a long time I still pined for the cities of dreaming spires, cursing myself for not applying instead for maths at Oxford or not applying to natural sciences at Cambridge, planning to reapply after being erroneously told I’d been rejected from Imperial, but coming to Imperial changed all that. Seriously. You get a degree of equal (and perhaps even more) value, plus you have more time for extra-curriculars, and you’re living cheaply in London! Even more importantly, there is a Ben’s Cookies in South Kensington Station, which was the foremost factor in my decision to apply to Oxford (where the original Ben’s Cookies is).

[I have removed number 11, about how it's not as expensive as I thought to live here, because of a comment I received on this post. Accommodation and travel will be more expensive than elsewhere, unless you are lucky, which I personally have been. Still, don't let that discourage you. Amongst other things, Imperial graduates have some of the highest starting salaries, and if you come here you'll probably get the only chance you'll ever  have to live in South Kensington!]

12. If things get rough, don’t carry on until you burn out

This is probably most important of all. The college has all sorts of avenues for getting help if you’re finding life a bit hard – from personal tutors to other people in your department to college counsellors to GPs at the Health Centre who may refer you to a specialist clinic if need be. You cannot, I repeat cannot, suffer in silence. Repeat that to yourself. Put a note on your fridge. Write it backwards on your forehead. Aside from potentially making things much worse, if you don’t let your department know you’re having a tough time and your work suffers for it you won’t be able to claim mitigating circumstances later. You can go into as few or as many specifics as you wish with people (it will be held in complete confidence), though you do have at least say what the problem is and provide some form of evidence on the form you have to fill in to get mitigating circumstances.

It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help – in many ways it’s quite a brave thing to do. Even if it weren’t you should still do it. I know I was embarrassed at first, but this sort of thing is so common, and even if it weren’t then it would be nothing to be embarrassed about. Find someone who will convince you to go and get help if you can’t make yourself do it. This is seriously important. I know I required a lot of convincing, sometimes even just to leave the house. Don’t let a problem get worse before you get help. Don’t fear wasting people’s time, you won’t be. Most of all, look after yourself.

I will add to this as I think up more things, so please check back! If you have any questions at all, don’t hesitate to send me a message via Facebook (link in the sidebar) or comment on this post. Also coming soon is a “Why choose physics, and why choose Imperial physics” post.

Now, back to revision!

19 Responses to “Things I wish I’d known when I was your age”

Coranda Berry Says:
August 19th, 2010 at 6:25 pm |

This is amazing. And also, why the heck are you revising?

Giulia G. Says:
August 19th, 2010 at 6:51 pm |

Thanks for the tips, both yours and Corrie’s were a great way to get into the mood for Imperial (as if I needed to…). I particularly enjoyed n.8 on your list, please give the biography back before October so I (as a fresher) can read it too ^^
Since I’m coming from Italy, I really don’t know what to expect from university, so it’s nice to know that everybody is in the same boat, regardless of where they’re from (though, having had my results nearly two months ago I didn’t share the A-level panic and already knew about IC).
Thank you very much for the good work!
Giulia

Courtney Williams Says:
August 19th, 2010 at 9:28 pm |

@Corrie Thank you very much! I have resits to do, unfortunately :(

Courtney Williams Says:
August 19th, 2010 at 9:33 pm |

@Giulia You’re welcome, I’m glad you liked it! Congrats on getting in, and see you in the new year! (I’ll try my best to part with the book before then ;) )

Mum Says:
August 23rd, 2010 at 6:09 pm |

Well done Courtney on this blog, I hope people read it and take note – especially no. 12. xx

A Non Says:
August 24th, 2010 at 9:18 am |

Sincerely enjoyed reading your blog throughout the year, hope you carry on with it!

Courtney Williams Says:
August 25th, 2010 at 10:07 pm |

@Mum Thank you! x

@A Non (which I misread as “A Nun” at first) Thank you so much! I’m very glad you liked it, whoever you are. Not sure if I’ll apply to be an Imperial blogger again, but I’ll be sure to let everyone now when I properly set up my personal blog. :)

Alex Says:
August 26th, 2010 at 12:25 pm |

I would disagree with the ‘living cheaply’ comment. 5 years at imperial and prices have only gone up. I’m not sure deluding people about the cost of London is a good thing…

Anyway, good effort on avoiding the apathy field.

Mum Says:
August 26th, 2010 at 8:16 pm |

I hope you do let us know if you set up a personal blog as I find out more what you are doing from this! xx

Courtney Williams Says:
August 26th, 2010 at 11:29 pm |

@Alex Thank you for the correction – I’ve removed that section. I should really have asked some more experienced people before writing it, hope the bit I wrote in replacement is better!

@mum I will, and will also try and talk about it in real life…

Rob W Says:
September 18th, 2010 at 12:46 pm |

I was browsing around looking at Post Grad opportunities and came across these blogs.
Number 12) is one of the most important points that can be made and can not be understated.

What’s happen to the facebook message link in the sidebar? I’d like to give some points from my experience.

Fiona Says:
October 9th, 2010 at 1:07 pm |

Brill blog – thanks! Only thing not-quite-as-great-as-rest-of-the-blog is that Ben’s cookies originally set up shop in Oxford actually. Their triple chocolate cookies (still warm) were the only thing which got me through 4 years in Oxford! Very glad to be doing postgrad in this bustling corner of London, and seeing that I’ve still got Ben’s cookies is the icing on the cake!

Courtney Williams Says:
December 4th, 2010 at 6:17 am |

@Rob W Thanks for your comment, I definitely agree with you – I’d put it in lights if I could! I’ve emailed you my details so we can discuss your points.

@Fiona You’re welcome, thank you for your comment! Thanks also for pointing out the post was a bit unclear – I’ve visited the Oxford Ben’s Cookies too, with my school, so I’ve reworded it. I visited the one in Leamington Spa too… London is still the best though!

Nnenda Says:
January 21st, 2011 at 5:09 pm |

Thanks for the tips. I’ve really enjoyed reading them! I found n.10 very helpful since I am one of those who didin’t get into Cambridge. My interview didn’t go quite as planned-I’m still getting over it though!- but it was a great experience. I have just got an offer from Imperial actually!^^ ..though I am quite intimidated that everyone seems to be a geek..^^..:-S

Since I am coming from Italy,too, I really don’t know what to expect- but I am really looking forward to it!
Hope to get my grades!!

Thanks for a great job! Keep it up..xxx

bianca Says:
May 23rd, 2011 at 3:49 pm |

I saw your blog and a thought i should just ask! i need an oppinion, perhaps someone of you could give a hand with this….i wish to study in london, i saw imperial and i have to ask how exactly is there??? and if you could give me some advice on what is best to study because i have no idea what i would like! please…a little help…

Courtney Williams Says:
October 10th, 2011 at 7:50 am |

@Nnenda Thank you for your comment, congratulations on your place! Glad the post helped you – and don’t worry, we have the whole spectrum from completely non-geeky to Sheldon Cooper ;-)

@bianca Thanks for your comment :-) I have emailed you, hope it’s not too late!

Apologies to both of you for not seeing you’d commented until I went on my old blog to see if I still could :-S

Alice Says:
January 17th, 2013 at 7:41 pm |

I found this blog when searching for ‘how to get over not getting into Cambridge’ and i have to admit that the first sentence of item 10 was slightly painful to read … I was set on going to London before applying to Cambridge but then I fell so in love with everything about C that my horrific interview and subsequent rejection threw everything up in the air. I can’t even buy a gorgeous ‘Cambridge satchel’ because of the first word-I know it sounds pathetic but it’s how I feel. I’m now in a position where I feel completely lost and heartbroken, does this embitterment and feeling of complete failure go away? In hindsight are you glad that you ended up at Imperial?

Courtney Williams Says:
January 21st, 2013 at 2:28 pm |

Hi there Alice! Apologies for not responding to your comment until now, I had a completely packed weekend and didn’t want to dash something off.

The short answer is that, yes, the feelings that you describe do go away and that I’m definitely glad I ended up at Imperial – and I’m definitely not just saying that! The long answer will take a little more thought to word (so as not to be platitudinous and to take into account the fact that not everyone will have the exact experience I did), but I will get it to you in the next few days. It’s actually something I’ve been meaning to write for a while, aimed at people like you – just need to get it out of my brain. I can also send you my email address if you want to chat more. Apologies for generally being slow, hope this is okay – take care in the meantime!

Courtney Williams Says:
February 14th, 2013 at 1:26 pm |

Hi there Alice!

Apologies for taking a while to get back to you properly. As I said, I wanted to write something decent, but lots of work plus getting ill (and, let’s be honest, rampant procrastination) have kept me annoyingly busy. Hope that this makes up for the gap in correspondence – as I mentioned previously, I’m happy to pass on my email address to you if you want to talk some more to someone who’s been there and done that. I’ve tried to cover as many mental bases as I could think of.

Before I start, and I really can’t stress this enough, if you feel like you need to speak to someone like a counsellor (or even if you don’t and other people think you do, or if you just want to talk things through) that’s always an option. I know it can feel like problems like this aren’t “serious enough” – because I’ve felt that myself! – but they’re just as legitimate as anything else, plus the way they affect your mood and perceptions means they can often be the thing making you think they’re not serious enough. (Brains, huh?) There can be a lot of deep-seated issues under experiences like this.

However… *necessary disclaimer about how I’m not a doctor or a professional, not able to give medical advice, etc., etc.*

Anyway, to actually address your question. I am in the lucky position of having ended up in exactly the right place, and having worked out that what I thought was the right place – even, at times, the only place – would have probably been far less suitable (i.e. yes, I’m exceedingly glad I ended up at Imperial!). That happened because of the interview, which is unfortunately the opposite of your experience. However, I hope I can still say some things that will be of worth to you, since I did experience a lot of bad feelings following my rejection.

It’s hard for me to say “yes, it goes away!” about any bad feelings someone experiences because I have mental health issues (not as a result of the rejection) so will probably have to work against those sorts of feelings for the rest of my life, but I can say that, in my experience, the feelings specific to the rejection definitely go away. Occasionally my brain will bring it back up again, but that’s because my brain doesn’t work as it really ought to, rather than it truly being an indicator of my worth. And the same is true for you! One thing to remember is that this is probably the first time in your life that you’ve experienced such a rejection, so of course it’s going to be really difficult and feel like it’s a reflection on your character (especially if you tie your self-worth to academic success as lots of high-flying people do), even though it categorically isn’t. It’s very easy to say and probably hard to believe, but a little more time will really put things in perspective – and if it doesn’t, then that’s not because you’re a failure or anything of the sort. Think about how you felt during SATs, and then during GCSEs – like it was the MOST IMPORTANT THING IN THE WORLD (at least, if you were like me…) – and how it seems in hindsight. I assure you that once you get into university a bit, all thoughts of the universities that didn’t say “yes” will fade away, and if they don’t then it’s nothing to do with your worth or future prospects or anything like that.

I think something that’s also really important to remember is that universities don’t just fall into two categories: Oxbridge and worthless. If you go someone other than Oxford or Cambridge, it doesn’t mean you won’t get a great degree or have an enjoyable university experience. I think the only thing that Oxbridge has that nowhere else has is the small tutorial system, which honestly is a real bonus – tutorials at Imperial are in larger groups, though there are still office hours where you can talk to lecturers individually. What going to another university does mean is a slightly less intense environment (owing to Oxbridge’s shorter terms in comparison with everywhere else), which can only be a good thing, particularly if you’re already prone to overwork and perfectionism. Obviously, no university (including Imperial) is perfect, nor is everyone guaranteed to magically end up in the right place, but there isn’t so much variation between universities that you.

Of course, maybe Cambridge was the perfect (or as close to perfect as you can realistically get, anyway) place for you, just as maybe Oxford – or any other university – was somehow the perfect place for me. “Not perfect” doesn’t mean “no good features whatsoever”, though. Another important point is that the interview isn’t necessarily the most accurate representation of what it would actually be like to study and live there. I know my Imperial interview wasn’t.

Also, and this is just a personal opinion, living in London is a bit more exciting than living in Oxford or Cambridge, despite the expense!

While I’m here, if you’re really really really set on going to Cambridge, applying there as a postgraduate is always an option, and a fairly common course of action for people rejected at undergraduate level. One bonus of that route is that you’d be returning there with (hopefully) more confidence and a better sense of your abilities. Taking a year out to reapply for an undergraduate degree at Cambridge is also an option, of course, but I would definitely recommend you go ahead and stick with attending one of your other UCAS options, just because of the extra time the reapplication route would take and the extra potential for massive disappointment and upset.

Hope that this answers your concerns, let me know if you have any more questions. I know very well myself that it’s so easy to say these things (I certainly hope you don’t find any of what I’ve said too platitudinous), but I hope some of them will help you challenge the cycles of bad thinking that are so easy to get stuck in.

Take care!

ETA: a point I forgot to mention is that the Oxbridge interview process isn’t an exact science – it definitely favours intellectually confident people, which is good in a way because they are probably the people who’d thrive in that environment (well, that’s what the official line is, but wouldn’t less confident people benefit more from the small tutorial system? </vaguelyrantyaside>), but those people aren’t necessarily the objective “best of the best”. There’s really no such things as that! Therefore, being rejected doesn’t mean you’re no good – it just means that, on that day, they judged that the way you learn and process information wasn’t compatible with how Cambridge teaches. (Another relevant point: Cambridge will get more viable candidates than they have places, so necessarily have to reject people who might have thrived there. Another point in favour of “you’re not a failure”!)

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